Wow, time truly flies when you’re a parent. I cannot believe Ben is almost one year old! Although there were some tougher stretches that seemed to last forrrrreverrrr (4 month sleep regression, I’m talking to YOU!), it’s amazing how quickly 2014 is passing by. I feel old :)
Life lately has been wonderful and chaotic all at the same time. I always feel like I’m in GO mode. Long gone are those days when I use to sprawl myself across the couch, flipping through TV and sipping my coffee ever so slowly. I found an old appointment book of mine from the days before we had Ben and I cracked up looking at my old schedule: 11:30am pilates, 2:30pm massage, 5:45pm coffee meeting with client… Now my days read more like this: 6:30am spring out of bed, 8am prep breakfast for Ben and feed him and wash dishes at the same time, 9:30am try my best to answer work emails, 10am hope he’s still napping so I can take a two minute shower, noon get lunch into baby and then hurry to the park for a play date and then get back in time for another nap…LOL! But I would not have my life any other way. I feel so fulfilled being a parent and so blessed and honored to be a mother.
Now that Ben is 10.5 months and eating more solids, cooking for my little man has been more fun! Here are a few dishes I served today.
Breakfast: organic pasture raised egg yolk cooked with ghee, steamed beets from the farmers market and a side of fresh organic raspberries
Lunch: Beet/purple carrot “granita”, side of sauerkraut and a coconut veggie cream soup topped off with some organic grass fed chicken liver.
I’m trying my best to feed Ben the most nourishing foods that I can find from the farmers markets and I feel so lucky to live close to three different markets. Because of Ben’s eczema, I have to be really careful what I feed him. Dairy and sugar are two huge triggers so I’m steering clear of any dairy at the moment (his formula is a goats milk formula, which I purchase from Switzerland) and sugar (I keep fruits to a minimum and only give him lower sugar fruits like berries, apples and pears). Our pediatrician raised his eyebrows when I told him I am steering clear of dairy but I know that you can get more calcium from dark leafy greens than from a block of cheese. I make sure Ben’s diet is incredibly varied with tons of healthy protein, fats and veggies. Just following my intuition here as a mommy and doing what works for now.
B has eczema and every day feels like a battle of the rash on his face. When it’s warm out, he’ll flare up bad. We recently had A/C installed to keep his room cool and it has helped but he still has splotchy red spots on his cheeks, poor thing. I’m curious what you mamas have done to help tame eczema on your kids.
This is what I’ve been doing:
- Keeping his face clean and dry, which is really tough now because he is drooling puddles 24/7. The saliva really irritates his skin and makes the eczema even worse.
- I’m a big fan of the Mustela stelatopia line. We use their soap for his body and hair, cream cleanser for the face, and balm to moisturize.
- I’m trying out Vanicream post-bath to lock in moisture.
- Curel Anti-Itch is in my rotation when I catch him scratching at his face or neck.
- Run a humidifier in his room overnight so it’s not too dry. If you do this, be sure to keep the windows and door open during the day so the room airs out. You don’t want the moisture to grow mold and bacteria, especially if you have rugs or carpet. When he’s up from his nap, I keep his windows and door wide open and turn on the ceiling fan. Oh, and be sure to always clean the humidifier! I use the Smile Rabbit Humidifier, which works really well and is easy to clean. I like that you use a bottle of water – I just use a Fiji water bottle filled with filtered h2o. You can purchase it here.
- Tell myself that hopefully one day he’ll grow out of it and if not, so be it.
I’ve added a new job to my resume: BOTTLE WASHER
So my last post was basically a woe-is-me rant about how hard motherhood has been for me. I call that brutal honesty. Now let’s focus on all the awesomeness that having a baby has brought. Because it really is amazing. Here are just a few things that light up my life daily:
Watching Ben on the baby monitor when he wakes up. He stares straight into the baby monitor, smiles, and chews on his hands. ADORABLE!
Bathtime. This is seriously one of the highlights of my day. He is so freakin’ cute in the bathtub because he’s got chubby rolls all over and is starting to kick and splash the water and giggle like crazy. Oh, I just love this time with him.
His giggles. My heart just melts into one puddle when he laughs. I want to bottle up his laughs and bring them with me wherever I go because it honestly zaps away any stress I have.
Waking up and going into his room to get him. (Yep, Ben sleeps in his crib in his own room and has been since week 3. More on that later.) 99% of the time he greets us with the biggest smile and laugh. It’s so damn cute. Chris and I fight over who runs into his room first.
Having his little hands reach up and touch my face and grab my hair. Pure innocence. So precious.
My list can go on and on. So was the adjustment to motherhood really tough? YES. Is it all worth it? HELL FREAKIN’ YEAH.
Hi! I’ve been on major hiatus and if you didn’t know, I had a baby boy named Benjamin! He was born November 23, 2013 and weighed 7.5 lbs. Labor and delivery was EASY PEASY. I knew I wanted the epidural because I’m a total chicken when it comes to pain and had nothing to prove by braving labor sans medication. Ben was due November 28th, but on November 22nd I started having contractions in my lower back and buttocks – OW! After several hours of inconsistent but painful contractions, I went to see my OB so she could tell me how dilated I was. I really thought I was at least 4-5cm dilated but NO! I was only 1cm and NOWHERE close to real labor. So I decided to get induced the following morning if nothing happened that night, which was torture because the contractions kept coming but weren’t regular enough to jet off to the hospital.
We delivered at St. Johns Santa Monica, which is like the Four Seasons of hospitals. The labor and delivery wing is new and freaking amazing and gorgeous and quiet. I swear we were the only ones in there because you cannot hear ANYTHING. We checked in at 11am, I got the epidural at noon (which, by the way, did not hurt AT ALL – my anesthesiologist was insanely good), I got a small dose of pitocin at 1pm, they broke my water at 3pm and then at 6:30pm I started pushing. And in between all of that, I just chilled in my bed watching Bourne Supremacy and The Hunger Games and pushed out the baby while watching the UCLA football game. Yeah. Awesomeness. Little did I know that everything to follow would be much, much harder.
- Recovery. Everyone talks about how labor and delivery can be painful but no one ever told me how horribly painful the recovery would be. I know everyone heals differently but for me, I couldn’t walk for two weeks and didn’t feel “normal” until 6 weeks later. No one every tells you that you’ll be using squirt bottles, witch hazel, mesh underwear and pads!
- Sleep deprivation. I expected to be sleep deprived but I had no idea what it felt like. Now I know why sleep deprivation can lead to car accidents. For weeks I could not focus, think, function properly or do much. This all led to some major meltdowns.
- The sound of crying. I seriously have PTSD from some of Ben’s earlier crying episodes.
- Breastfeeding. Um, it’s NOT easy. You have to deal with the baby latching correctly and milk supply. They tell you your milk supply comes in on the fourth of fifth day. BULL! Mine didn’t fully come in until MONTH two. Thanks to my lack of milk, poor Ben got dehydrated and developed very high levels of jaundice, which forced him to shrink a few CM and lose more than 10% of his body weight. Which leads me to my next thing…
It’s OK to formula feed if you need to! Don’t let the breastfeeding nazis scare you. At the end of the day, baby needs to EAT. I wound up supplementing a bottle here and there with formula and it was like Ben became a different baby. He went from screaming his head off all day (probably because he was STARVING and I didn’t know any better) to peacefully napping in my arms. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion regarding breastfeeding vs. formula and I’m just sharing my experience. We are so fortunate to live in a society that has options for feeding a baby so take advantage of it and do not feel guilty! I felt so guilty and was so stressed out at first. But once I accepted that it’s ok to feed formula, it’s like I became a different mom. I was happy and could enjoy my baby rather than yank my hair out because I didn’t produce much milk.
Things I learned:
- Ask for help! No, DEMAND help! From anyone who is willing. You’ll need it.
- Get a support system in place ASAP. With crazy hormones running through your body, sleep deprivation and all these new changes you’ll have a few meltdowns and that is totally normal. The best thing I ever did? I reached out to girlfriends with babies for support and it really helped me through some of the tough times. Knowing that you’re not alone and that it WILL get better is enough to keep you going.
- EAT! I was so consumed with feeding the baby, watching YouTube videos on how to properly swaddle a newborn, and catching up on sleep that I forgot to eat. Not a good idea especially if you’re breastfeeding. You’ll wind up shaky, cranky and with more meltdowns than you can handle.
- Watch YouTube! That’s where we learned to properly change, swaddle, bathe and soothe a newborn. When it’s 3AM and your baby is crying like a madman, you will NOT want to flip through those damn parenting books.
- Introduce the bottle ASAP if you’re hoping to get dad or family members to help out with feedings. Forget about nipple confusion. We were forced to introduce Ben to a bottle when he had jaundice and needed to be fed every hour for 24 hours to regain some weight and I am SO thankful we did. Apparently there is a short window when the baby will learn to take the bottle and if you miss it, oh man it’s going to be hard to get him to suck on anything other than mama’s nipple. If you plan on breastfeeding exclusively GOOD FOR YOU! But some of us don’t want to feel totally restricted. I happen to LOVE the bottle. We still bond, Ben gets fed, and everyone’s happy.
But it’s not all tears and sleep deprivation. Motherhood has also turned out to be kick ass and awesome in so many ways. I’ll save that for my next post :)
Below, Ben as a newborn. Those days were so precious when he was tiny enough to lay on your chest. So innocent and adorable. I really treasured that time but I’m not sad to see it behind us! :)
I heart stationery, especially well-designed pieces on quality paper. I’ve been a fan of Tiny Pine Press for ages so it was a no brainer to get our thank you cards from her. I love the simplicity of these letterpress cards with a straightforward “gratitude” written across the top in the prettiest calligraphy.
I guess you could say it’s the “nesting” instinct taking over but lately I’ve been in the mood to shop for all things home and garden. A good example is last week I randomly threw out all our plastic tupperware, bought a massive order of mason jars from Amazon, and then transferred everything that was in plastic into the jars. I had fun; my husband thought I was nuts :) But he knew better than to argue with me.
Ever since watching this video on LA In Bloom, my new favorite blog and webisode series (quick, someone get Heather Taylor her own cooking and entertaining show!) I’ve been on the hunt for a handmade ceramic citrus juicer like the one she uses. After searching high and low I found one on Kneeland Co. Mercado, this wonderful website of thoughtful globally sourced products. I received it yesterday and adore it! It just makes me smile for some reason…I can’t wait to use it.